May 06, 2002 5:02AM
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Well it's 5:02am on Monday morning and I just finished watching Chasing Amy (New Jersey Trilogy 4 Life yo!) and it really opened my eyes about two things. One, homosexuals and how to understand it and also relationships and peoples sexual past. The way that this movie explained homosexuality, whether in a man or a woman, was extremely well done and eye opening (at least for me). One of the most repeated statments made by gays is: "we didn't chose" or "it wasn't our choice, we can't just go back and forth", that's why everyone hates bisexual people. Gays hate them because they say they're faking it and there is no "in between", you are either attracted to one sex or the other" and straight people hate them because they just think they are faking it, based on the previous statement about one or the other.. where was I again? Ah yes, people always say "it's not a choice". Well, this statement really doesn't help understand anything at all, nor can straights relate to it, so no one really benfits by it being said. In the movie, one of the main characters (a lesbian) describes it as follows:
Holden: Why Girls?
Alyssia: Why Men?
Holden: Because thats the standard.
Alyssia: If thats the only reason your attracted to women.. because its the standard...
Holden: no, its more than that
Alyssia: so you've never been curious about men
Holden: no
Alyssia: why not
Holden: no insterest
Alyssia: because?
Holden: girls feel right
Alyssia: well thats how I feel, ive never really been attracted to men.
You see, just like I, and almost every other guy out there, has this instinct feeling to be attracted to girls, its something that can't be helped, something we don't question and is just all around unavoidable, thats exactly the way that homosexuals feel about the same sex. Just this instinct. I have never had a problem with gays and I haven't thought less of them (except for the gay pride parade, what the fuck is the deal with that? Keep the fucking sex at home. Why parade down the street informing everyone where you like sticking your cock at night?). But anyway, I really liked how Kevin Smith wrote this explaination, it really changed the way I viewed it.
As for people's sexual past, that is what this entire movie is about. How our self concious, paranoid obbsessions get in the way of our closest relationships. In this movie, the main character finds out his girlfriend has "been around" with many many partners in the past and has experienced much more than him. He then breaks up with her because of this. Typical reaction in my eyes and I could relate to the character. Then Silent Bob (Kevin Smith) explained the Chasing Amy story, and it completely changed my opinion and view on it. He was in an awesome relationship, very happy. Once they got past the bullshit dating phase and on to more serious things and things started heading more towards the bedroom, he asked her about past boyfriends and found out she had been involved in a threesome with two other guys. Even though it was in the past, he flipped out, calling her a slut and anything he could think of because all he wanted to do was hurt her because she had hurt him and he said goodbye and left. Later, he had figured out he was actually just scared. Scared he wouldn't live up to her expectations. Because of her past, she seemed more experienced, and perhaps was looking for alot, but she wasn't she was looking for him! She was with him for a reason. (I really don't think I'm doing this story justice) She had already moved on when he had come to realise the mistake he had made based on an irrelevent past. Basically the point of this story, Chasing Amy, was to let you know WHO THE FUCK CARES about how many people your girlfriend has been with, who cares what she's done and with who! Its the past, she shouldn't have to apologize or feel bad for it, you should just realize that it can't be changed and that she is with you because of who you are and that worrying about someones past is a waste of time. Okay, well, fuck, i just totally fucking ruined that story. Jeeze.. well, considering the people reading this are most of my friends, just fucking come over and watch the damn movie and you'll understand.
To Sum Up: Don't concentrate on sex and past sex, because it all doesn't matter. Just appreciate the person she/he is and enjoy every second. I'm done. I'm going to bed.
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